If you are one of those people who likes the fuck word, welcome to the club. According to the Associated Press profanity study (2006), 64% of Americans use this word on a daily basis. About the same number find it bothersome.
It is always the feeling behind a word that makes something enjoyable, violent, abusive, or fun; not the word itself. Words carry energy. You can say fuck with love, fear, anger, or amusement.
Intention matters. In the world of intentional-living, the intention is the seed. In a split-second, you can make a word mean a million different things.
An amusing fact about the word fuck is that, for most people, it has a subconscious conditioning of fear. In a research study (Bowers & Pleydell-Pearce, 2011), those people who were reprimanded for cursing when being kids showed a higher degree of arousal/sweat when reading out loud curse words compared to words such as “an apple,” “a table”, “sky”. They felt scared.
For many, the word fuck also has a religious connotation and subconscious conditioning of sinfulness. Many spiritual texts talk about not using foul language. The thing is – the word fuck is no different from the word carrot, parrot, or chocolate. Just a different combination of letters and sounds. Conditioning is what makes it stand out, nothing else.
There can be an emotional charge behind this word. Many use it when expressing anger, but if instead of fuck one said carrot, then very soon the word carrot would be tainted by negativity and fear.
There also may be a sexual component. For centuries, sex has not been an act of enjoyment and pleasure between two people who celebrate love for each other. Instead, it was a show of power. The word fuck has inherited human qualities of not being able to control one’s urges, yet the word itself is not responsible.
Fuck made its way into the English dictionary between the 15th and 17th centuries when the medieval scholars have acknowledged its existence. The word itself traces its etymological roots to Latin and means “to strike.”
Modern spirituality calls out to take personal responsibility for intentions, focusing on a subtlety. Feeling not thinking. Listening not reacting. Celebrating not judging. Leading with the heart, not the mind.
When the conditioning of fear is undone, the word fuck comes back into the language, and only intuition and context can tell you when and how to use it; there are no rules. It is as innocent as any other word in the human vocabulary. Use your creativity, intention, and intuition to feel empowered and tasteful as you use it – just like a good spice in your food.
Bowers, J.S., & Pleydell-Pearce, C.W (2011). Swearing, Euphemisms, and Linguistic Relativity, PlosOne.
The Associated Press Profanity Study (2006). Ipsos Public Affairs