They strike, not when you are just out of college but also when you have your mid-life crisis. Because – the amount of work options is limitless. It used to be three:
I am exaggerating a bit, but you get the point. Nowadays – you can be anything you f*cking want! I am serious. Here is a very brief 10-item list:
With so many choices, and I haven’t even really given a fair amount of attention to the whole list of possibilities, how do you make a choice of what you want to be when you grow up, whether you are in your 20s or 50s?
Here are some ways to shift your mind on viewing what a profession is:
1. Profession is NOT a life-long choice
It used to be. Once you decide that you are a doctor, you must be one for the rest of your life. I get it: to be a doctor, you have to spend 10 years in training, and many thousand dollars in debt. After that, switching a profession is a bit unlikely.
But, here is the thing. You can be a doctor 50% of your time, and a musician 20%, and a gardener 20%, and a crochet guru 10%, because that is possible. You do not commit to being in jail so to speak until you pay, with your blood, sweat, and nervous system, every penny of your debt.
This is one model. Another model is not to go to a medical/engineering school altogether, but instead – take the time and be a cat walker for 2 years, then become a dancer, then open a liquor store, then go travel the world.
The best thing of all, I am not talking hypothetically. These are not things from my mind. I have friends and clients who have done it, and they rock it – big time!
2. Pay attention to what brings you JOY
It used to be. You have to suffer when you go to work. Mostly, because generations of parents and grandparents took work as a personal sacrifice. They got paid, but when you asked them, “How was your workday?” the answer would be, “What do you expect? It is work!” Meaning, work wasn’t a point of inspiration and fulfillment but a sense of duty.
We spend anywhere between 30 to 50% of our lifetime working. Do you f*cking believe this!!!! A third to a half of our lifetime – this is insane! To come back home and say, “Hey, my work is not supposed to be fun” is saying that you are giving away a half of your lifetime to something you don’t enjoy. Seriously!
Here is how you pay for it:
With your health (you get all kinds of conditions there, take meds, and a health insurance to pay for your sacrifice – no! no!) You are not born to do that. To get sick so that you can bring your service to others. I personally wouldn’t want to buy a loaf of bread from you if I knew you hate your job. It wouldn’t go down my throat!
With your relationships. When you are grumpy and dissatisfied, your friends and family pay for it – with all possible ways. You are not there for your kids, your partner or lover can’t get good sex and attention, and you are always tired – that is not the way to live either. Life is too short.
With social issues. Think about the political and community stuff. When you are grumpy, you speed on the road, curse on fellow drivers, then the state has to monitor, set-up tolls, solicit punishment, spend money and time. The voting part is also affected. Basically – it is a local and national hazard!
Pay yourself for joy. Notice what you love doing – cooking, cleaning, gardening, selling houses, making money, talking about money, setting up social events, and make a business out of it – make money on what brings you joy, so that other people spend money on your joy!
3. Rest is good too
It used to be. You have to be productive all the time to be worthy. Without a job, there is no meaning and purpose. But hey, rest, leisure, adventures, learning of new crafts, doing creative projects, or just hanging out in your hammock in the back yard is equally amazing.
You don’t need to be productive, especially if you have the means to support yourself, or your parents or a rich lover willing to support you – all is good. Sometimes you need 6 months or 2 years off to find your center, peace, joy, and pleasure.
Give it to yourself. Resting is work too. Here is why. The more rested you are, the happier you are, and you are a true pleasure to be with on all levels – as a friend, partner, father, sister, customer, driver. There is a direct benefit of your rest to the society! If 6 months is too much, take two hours to start with.
Career choices are limitless
Do not complicate it
Do not put yourself in a lifetime prison
Pay yourself for joy
Include rest in your equation of joy