A Client Story #2

Recently, I worked with a client who came to me to transform her love life. She used to be in an abusive relationship that left her scarred. And she was ready for something different ... 

We had a deep 2-hour+ healing session. After I connected back to her in a few days, she said, "It didn't work." 😞

What didn't work? 

- she still didn't have a new partner

- felt pain & resentment towards her ex

- had her heart broken

This conversation & experience inspired me to write a bit about the process of healing, in case it will shed light and bring clarity & hope: 

1. Healing is not a surgery. Well, even with surgery, there is a process of recovery. For example, you might have a hip or knee replacement, but you still gotta do physical or occupational therapy to strengthen muscles, recover mobility, etc. 

When you give birth to a baby, sure - it's an instantaneous event, yet it takes 9 months to carry the baby + often years to recover from giving birth. 

Healing IS NO different! 

It's a practice & a process (like anything). Incremental shifts might translate into quantum jumps, followed by slowing down & speeding up! 

2. Abusive relationships (or mental health issues, or an illness, loneliness, or a disconnect from yourself professionally) are not the result of an accident. In very rare cases, it is (when it's literally an accident). 

Usually, it's a result of choices, actions, sometimes trauma, sometimes karma, the kind of disserment we have or don't have, our habits, self-concept, our expectations, communication skills, understanding of our needs, gifts, preferences, knowing our triggers etc. 

All of those things are built over time.

E.g., we don't gain weight overnight. It's a cumulative process. Losing weight is also a cumulative process that involves education + transformation + repetition. Development of awareness and new habits. 

Relationships are no different!!! The same is true for healing any other life stuff. 

In this way, the healing process is a combination of education + transformation + repetition. 

3. I have seen miracles in my life. Literally miracles. 

For example, when I went to Brazil in 2016, I saw a healer who would heal cancer without anesthesia (I write about this story in my book "From Russia to Joy"). He would create a cut, reach inside the body, pull out tissue, and remove a cancer blob. I was in disbelief & shock!!! 

BUT!!! One of the metaphysical causes of cancer is self-neglect - neglecting personal needs! 

So, to avoid relapse, a person still needs to change their behavior and habits!!! Surgery might treat immediate symptoms, yet a deeper change is necessary to eliminate the cause! And relapse. 

At that time, in Brazil, I wished for a number of things. Two of them were: 

    ⭐ heal depression

    ⭐ develop my intuition

I did receive surgery - nothing was cut (I wasn't ready for that level of trust 😂), but when I got back, I still had to do the work:  

  ⭐ for intuition - I enrolled in a metaphysical university and learned to channel Spirit. It took me years of practice to really become precise and on point about it.

  ⭐ for depression - I had to heal my childhood trauma, learn to listen to my intuition, change my lifestyle, divorce my ex, change my job, etc. 

Depression was a symptom, not the cause! It was the way my body and mind would tell me that something wasn't aligned with my joy, my Soul, and my path. 

Had I taken meditation and treated symptoms, I would have ignored my Soul's crying (btw, I am not against medication. In some cases, it's necessary! Even life saving. At least, temporarily!) 

It took years of 

ִ  🦋 daily commitment & practice

  🦋 deep listening to my Soul & healing

  🦋 rewiring my brain, way of thinking, way of doing, way of choosing

  🦋 making uncomfortable choices

So, this story is both REALISTIC + OPTIMISTIC. 

One

This lady (or you, or anyone else) can have what she/you wants!!! She can have an amazing relationship. She can heal her heart. She can find love again and trust in love. She can let the past be the past and move on from pain and suffering. 

Two

She is the one to create the miracle (or you are the one!) Healers, guides, coaches, and mentors are essential!!! They teach tools, show the path, share inspiration, educate, provide guidance, and create a safe space. I wouldn't be where I am today without dozens and dozens of mentors! 

And YOU have to walk the path!!! 

Someone can teach you about a healthy diet, but you are the one who cooks,  eats, & exercises. And deals with cravings and relapses (which are a part of the process). 

If there were a miraculous pill that you could take that changes your life overnight, I would take it!!! I like an easy route 😆

But that's not the Soul's journey. The Soul's journey is to become the hero of your own path! 

There is tremendous hope in this story, and there is also a choice that comes with it. What's yours today? 

Xx, 

Mariya