When You're Attracted to Another Person 👀👀
Apr 23, 2026
When you are in a committed and conscious relationship, attraction to another person can feel confusing.
Especially when you love your partner.
Especially when you value integrity.
Oh, Gosh, feeling attraction isn't a problem - enjoy it! Open to it. There are so many beautiful people living on this planet.
Now, if you start going into your head about it and start interpreting, or the feeling begins to haunt you, that's when you might go down a rabbit hole 🙂
Here are the traps I see most often:
1. No one outside of you completes you. Not even your partner. You are whole.
If attraction feels charged, obsessive, or bigger than the moment, there is often some inner wounding being activated.
Notice if there are any thoughts around giving your power away.
"If only I had ..., then this problem would go away."
or
"If only I had ... this would resolve ... issue."
Before handing your power to fantasy, sit with the actual need.
Is it praise? Desire? Rest? Feeling chosen? Aliveness?
Meet the real need first.
Often, what you want from them is what you have not yet given yourself.
2. Those qualities you admire in another - you have them too.
Yes, you can feel attracted not to the whole person, but to some of their qualities. Maybe you wish to have those qualities yourself.
You do not need to sleep with your lesson in order to learn it 🙂
What attracts you may be confidence, clarity, generosity, or depth.
Qualities you are ready to claim for yourself.
It's beautiful. Spirit places amazing people on our path - for us to take the next step of our evolution.
3. It's a package. LOL :)
Great abs may come with emotional unavailability.
Spiritual chemistry may come with chaos.
Fantasy edits the full picture.
Nothing wrong with those desires.
Just see clearly what comes with them.