Work is Love Made Visible (Part 2) Letting Drama Go
Oct 22, 2025Part 2 on changing relationships with work.
Letting go of drama.
Surprisingly, my relationship with work in the past resembled my relationship in ex-marriage - lots of drama!!!
I grew up like that - in a family with lots of drama, reactivity, and constant addiction to problems.
I experienced a different kind of relationship with my current partner, Steven. He is chill, to say the least. But he still can dive into hard conversations and move through challenging situations. So, chill without avoidance.
At first, I was confused: my brain lacked stimulation (aka addiction to drama).
I had to unlearn it and train myself to enjoy inner peace. It created more room and space for other things - creativity, productivity, connection, getting sh*t done, dreams, being a better parent, friend, partner, service, learning, reading, etc.
So, this brilliant idea came a few years back - what if it's the same in work!? Obviously!!!!!!!! At the time, however, it wasn't obvious :)
There are tons of research on safe environments stimulating creativity. When you are not constantly being punished or functioning in fear, you are more likely to
- take initiative
- share ideas
- provide creative solutions
- collaborate authentically
- create win-win scenarios rather than compete (for attention, praise, status, etc).
However, this culture is created by our relationship with ourselves (in the case of entrepreneurship). In corporations, it's produced by smart leadership and mutual effort.
For me, it's the inner critic, with whom I have to work. While I didn't have a boss, I still had internal conditioning, where my creative ideas would be shut off and rejected by my very own inner voice.
Instead of yelling at it or rejecting it, I had to develop a very patient and kind relationship with it. Giving it time and space to relax and feel safe. It's been taking years... but so worth it.
Regulating my nervous system - daily!!! And creating inner safety - because that's what we want - in order to trust our intuition, desires, and vision.
These days, my go-to practice is the "Connecting with the Creator" practice that I do daily. If you are interested, check out the Spiritual Collective - it's the portal of amazing resources & growing!!!
The daily practice stretched my ability to
- tolerate discomfort
- not get reactive
- trust
- reduce the number of unnecessary thoughts I have and create inner peace
- stay in a moment and feel safe in a moment, in the presence of different external situations or inner thoughts, or emotions
- create intentionally and remain present, without external validation and immediate gratification
- hear my intuition/heart/inner guidance and not reject it.
I am not perfect, and things trigger me, especially if I am tired, overcommitted, or forget my self-care routine.
But perfection isn't the goal. Practice is.
The point is that when you intentionally start letting go of drama in your life, it allows for more love, creativity, action, and movement forward. And it doesn't happen only through external circumstances. It's an inner work as well.
- to relax! inside and let God/Universe/Divine in.
I am marvelling at younger people who simply reject the status quo and build a different way of work and lifestyle. And I really hope they don't get suppressed by the system.
And to me, putting time and effort into retraining myself is worth all the effort!
Results do come eventually.
With love,